{"id":118047,"date":"2012-12-13T14:21:58","date_gmt":"2012-12-13T22:21:58","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/heartifb.com\/?p=118047"},"modified":"2024-02-14T08:14:00","modified_gmt":"2024-02-14T16:14:00","slug":"jealousy-envy-in-the-blogging-community","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/heartifb.com\/jealousy-envy-in-the-blogging-community\/","title":{"rendered":"Jealousy & Envy in the Blogging Community"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"jealousy<\/p>\n

Perhaps it's not the most festive topic this time of year, but I've been thinking a lot about jealousy and envy in the blogging community<\/strong>. I'm sure I'm not the only one who's felt more than a tinge of one or both of these things in my blogging days…<\/p>\n

Let's start things off with a refresher on the difference between jealousy and envy:<\/p>\n

Jealousy:<\/strong> “the result or fear of losing someone or something that one is attached to or possesses to another person.”<\/p>\n

Envy:<\/strong>\u00a0 “the resentment caused by another person having something that one does not have, but desires for oneself.”<\/p>\n

(Thank you, Wikipedia<\/a>.) The two terms are often used to mean the same thing now, but when you think about it, there's a big difference, and I think that difference is important when talking about these emotions as they relate to the blogging community.<\/p>\n

Personally, I have suffered more from envy<\/strong> as a blogger. I don't so much fear losing anything to another, but I have definitely felt those moments of resentment. From the biting wit of Leandra Medine to Aimee Song<\/a>‘s perfect hair – I've caught myself in moments of spiteful envy when cruising some of my favorite blogs, even those of my friends!<\/p>\n

Then, I feel terrible. I feel lacking personally, and I feel bad because I'm projecting my own perceived shortcomings onto my talented peers who I actually want to support – not resent!<\/p>\n

British social critic Bertrand Russell<\/a> said that envy was one of the most potent causes of unhappiness. <\/strong>Do you agree?<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

If you're someone who's able to keep perspective as you navigate this crazy experience we call fashion blogging without feeling jealousy or envy, I commend you and your (ahem, enviable<\/em>) attitude. But if you're one who falters, who feels envy, who feels the desire to have what someone else has… Let's talk. What can we do to combat these feelings? I think Russell really was right in his thinking that envy breeds unhappiness, so here are some things that might help:<\/p>\n